Breaking Bad Writing Habits

“Drop by drop is the water pot filled.” –Buddha

My writing, since I retired, is a drop here and a drop there. There’s so much I want to write, I feel overwhelmed and stuck-in-the-mud. Waddling around aimlessly in this mudhole has become a bad habit.

During my career as a fundraising professional, I wrote for my job - newsletters, proposals, grants, strategic plans, annual reports, cases for support, press releases, and social media. Now that I'm newly retired, I have the freedom to write what I want, but how do I get unstuck from the mudhole?

So I searched Google for "habit," and found tons of information from people like Stephen R. Covey, Malcolm Gladwell, Twyla Tharp, Thich Nhat Hanh, Mark Twain, Oprah, James Clear, and more. They all have good ideas for building habits that can make life more productive. My takeaway from their advice helped me recognize my bad habits and create better habits.

Here’s the bad habits I want to stop:

  • Finding excuses to delay writing – i.e. – go to the mailbox, make guacamole, get caught up in TikTok or Pinterest, call my daughter. I can do these things later.
  • Lack of focus when writing. I skip between two blogs, two Etsy stores, Linkdin, and my Journal.
  • Sitting too long at one time at the computer.
  • Not drinking enough water.

Last week I started practicing new, much better habits:

  • Write from 9:00 AM to 11:00 AM, and 1:00 PM to 3:00 PM, Monday thru Friday.
  • Keep a running list of everything and everywhere I want to write. Review it every day, prioritize, and make changes as needed.
  • While writing, drink water, stand up and move every 30 minutes.
  • Sit up straight. (I tend to hunch over.)
  • When time is up, clean up my desk and get it ready for tomorrow. Be ready to start without wasting time looking for cords, chargers, folders or books I’ll need.
  • Make time Saturday and/or Sunday to read fiction.

Britannica Dictionary’s definition of HABIT: 1. a usual way of behaving: 2. something a person does often in a regular and repeated way.

Changing my usual way of behaving and writing often in a regular and repeated way is helping me feel more focused and less stuck-in-the-mud. And, I’m making progress in my writing skills and stockpile.

Do you have any advice for changing habits? What are your successful writing habits? Thanks for sharing!

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Mushrooming Through Life: A Fresh Take on Aging

I don’t like the phrase “growing old.” There’s no “growing” as you get older (unless you count hairs in your nose and ears.) Actually, there’s a lot of shrinking – your lips, boobs, muscles, and spine for beginners. Add that to your shrinking bank account, friends still living, and eyesight.

Anyway…not to be totally negative about aging, I’m looking for another description to replace “growing.” Thesaurus.com lists these synonyms for growing:

burgeoning, developing, expanding, flourishing, spreading, thriving, viable, amplifying, animate, augmenting, budding, crescent, dilating, enlarging, fructifying, germinating, living, maturing, mushrooming, pullulating, sprouting, stretching, swelling, waxing

Some of these made me LOL! I particularly like “mushrooming” old.

Advice from a Mushroom

  • Be down-to-earth
  • Sprout new ideas
  • Keep a low profile
  • Know when to show up
  • Stay well-rounded
  • Start from the ground up

My 10 minutes is up. Hope you have a mushrooming kind of day!

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Do you hear crickets?

I’m in my office, at my desk with laptop ready to write for 10-minutes. My watch timer is set. Ready, set, GO!

No writing thoughts are happening. Maybe I need a 2nd cup of coffee.

OK- back to my desk with coffee. My trip to the kitchen took about 20 minutes (I made toast with honey-butter spread) so I reset the timer to 10-minutes – Ready, set, GO!

Crickets.

Guess I could write about how much I’m enjoying this delicious, hot, aromatic coffee in my Grand Canyon souvenir mug. But, hold on, just saw the FedEx truck go by. I need to go look on the porch just in case the driver left a package.

False alarm – no package. I forgot to stop the timer. Should I reset it or just keep writing?

Wait, did CJ feed the feral yard cats this morning? I better ask him.

Morning sex is the best!

My 10-minutes is up.

Me and Tom vs. ChatGPT

My good friend Tom, is an excellent expository writer. We met while working for Boys & Girls Club. Tom was hired to write grants although he had no previous experience in grant writing. We were impressed by his lengthy resume of writing and editing for newspapers and colleges and he passed our writing exam with flying colors. We felt he could learn to write grants and he did so with great success. I consider him an expert in punctuation, grammar and word choice.

To me though, Tom’s writing is a little superfluous. Doesn’t mean I don’t like his writing; in fact, I totally respect his writing abilities and greatly value his approval, editing and suggestions of my writing.

Tom and I met for lunch a couple of months ago. I brought several entries I had written for my blog – www.mytruelovelist.com – and entries on the same blog topics “written” by ChatGPT. We had been talking about ChatGPT and what it means for writers like us and others such as students and advertisers. It was pretty clear which was which so I didn’t fool him at all, but he did give me some helpful guidance on using AI programs. And he’s using AI himself but lightly, carefully, focused.

Here’s a link to an excellent article about finding your writer’s voice written by Estelle Erasmus for the ajsa (American Society of Journalists and Authors.)

My 10 minutes is up. Wishing you a wonderful writing day!

2019 Aspirations

Mmm...CheetosAspirations are things you hope to achieve. Many people make New Year resolutions – a firm decision to do or not to do something. Sounds so black and white, so definite, so difficult. Instead, let’s aspire to achieve.

Here are my Write for 10 Minutes 2019 Aspirations:

  1. Finish the first three stories of the True Love List series.
  2. Learn to write screenplays.
  3. Write more for money.

You might think this is a short list – and it is – on purpose. Too many aspirations can cause anxiety, self-doubt, and eating lots of Cheetos. To combat being paralyzed by fear of failure, each aspiration has its own list of Action Steps.

Aspiration #1 – Get it done!

  • Before going to bed every night, set up the laptop on the dining table so it’s ready for me to sit down and write in the morning.* The dining table is a pretty place in my house next to a window and close to the Cheetos.
  • Gather whatever materials will be needed for the morning writing session.
  • Write for 1 hour in the morning. Try writing for an hour after work, although my brain is usually pretty fried.
  • Schedule four hours of writing time over the weekend.

Aspiration #2 – Learn something new

  • Read books on how to write screenplays.
  • Read screenplays.
  • Write a screenplay.
  • Ask my experienced, published, screenwriter friend Shaina for guidance and editing.

Aspiration #3 – Bring on the Benjamins

  • Research sites that pay freelance writers for blog posts and website copy.
  • Write and submit special interest articles to websites and magazines.
  • Self-publish My True Love List series.
  • Set a goal to make $.  I confess I’m not motivated by money but I am motivated by winning, reaching a goal, and feeling successful.

What are your 2019 Aspirations? 

*I got this idea from James Clear author of Atomic Habits, and creator of the Habits Academy, at www.jamesclear.com

Pain vs. Brain

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Four months ago today, I had surgery to replace my right knee. Everything went great and I’m very happy with the results.

For the first eight weeks after surgery, I regularly took pain pills – oxycodone. I wasn’t concerned with becoming addicted. I believe that pain causes stress which slows down the healing process. But, with all the negative press about opioids – which oxycodone is – I’ve heard many people say they won’t take pain medication. For sure, if you know you have an addictive personality, it’s a wise decision to avoid opioids.

My plan to get caught-up with writing, movies, and reading during my recovery time didn’t happen. The pain medication subdued my brain in so many ways. I didn’t care about food – nothing appealed to me. I lost interest in sex, reading, movies, writing, talking. The oxycodone made me feel calm and kind of numb which was OK during the time I was recovering from major surgery.

My knee still hurts from time to time – it’s part of the healing process going on in there. But, it doesn’t hurt enough to warrant taking pain meds. And, I’m so happy to have my active, crazy, engaged brain back!

10 ways to squeeze in 10 minutes

ostriches-838976_1920 (2)Here in the States, we just celebrated Thanksgiving Day. It’s a busy week of grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, and visitors. My sister, her four adult children and their children came for the week. We had so much fun! But it was a challenge to write for 10 minutes every day with so much company. And, in the midst of all the activities, I got a great idea for a fictional character and a scene for a book or short story. So I had to write! I had to squeeze in 10 minutes between the cooking, shopping, playing, talking, visiting, etc. You can too:

  1. Add 10 minutes to your day by setting your alarm 10 minutes earlier than usual.
  2. Write at the kitchen counter while you’re waiting for the water to boil or the potatoes to cook or the rolls to get burned – I mean browned. (I learned that 10 minutes is too long for rolls to be in the oven!)
  3. Lock yourself in the bathroom for 10 minutes. (Note: this doesn’t work very well if you have children in the house because they see the closed bathroom door as their opportunity to have a conversation with you!)
  4. Sit in your vehicle in a well-lit parking lot at the mall or the grocery store and write for 10 minutes.
  5. Or, sit in your vehicle in your driveway or parking lot and write for 10 minutes.
  6. Invite your company to go with you to the library or a coffee shop where you can write for 10 minutes while they read or enjoy a snack.
  7. Write while your mother/sister/husband/niece/nephew is talking. Look up occasionally or nod your head to appear as if you’re paying attention.
  8. Announce that you’re going to take a 30-minute nap. Write for 10 minutes; sleep for 20.
  9. Ask whoever you’re with to write for 10 minutes with you. My sister Becky and write together and sometimes we read what we wrote out loud.
  10. Before you turn in for the night and go to sleep, turn off the television, tablet, computer, smartphone and then write for 10 minutes.

I’m re-reading “How to Write a Nonfiction Book in 21 Days That Readers LOVE!” by Steve Scott. He writes for 2-hours every day and tells how he does it in this book. Someday…

I only have 10 minutes

squirrel-567858_1920 (2)I only have 10 minutes to write today so please excuse my unedited rambling. Sometimes this happens when you write for 10 minutes every day – you just write – without editing, correcting, changing. You write quickly, off the top of your head, in the now.  I’m currently reading Eckhart Tolle’s book, The Power of Now  (I know, I know, everybody’s read it already). He explains why and how to live in the now. So today I’m writing in the now – not about the past or the future, just what’s going on in my head at this moment – which is dinner – whole wheat spaghetti with meat sauce and zucchini. We’re having an early dinner and then going to our writer’s group.

Sometimes when you write for 10 minutes every day, it’s not what you write that matters, it’s that you write at all.

Becky’s rant

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“Yeah – that bothers me.”

Becky woke up with that thought. The bothersome thought woke her an hour early and nagged her until she got up and wrote about it.

Here’s Becky’s Write for 10 Minutes rant:

America is sending and spending billions of dollars on a situation that has gone on since right after WWI. In the last year, $160 billion to Afghanistan and $120 billion to Iraq. We keep sticking our noses into other people’s business. It’s costing us our sons daughters fathers mothers. When there are things we could do so much more for our own people here in the US. Especially the military veterans. This is gratitude to those who have sacrificed their minds body and souls. It is not right for us to give money to people outside our country when we have so many who should not have to wait even 5 minutes for a doctor or hospital to take care of them because of the service they did for US. The collective people of our nation need to rethink what we are here for. 

We both have sons in the US military so I understand and share her frustration.

BUT – when Becky announced that she was writing a rant, I expected it to be about something else – like how her boyfriend forgot to tell her that he changed the locks on the doors to their house, or about our sister Beth (Becky’s twin) who went back to live with her abusive husband, or about the issues she’s having with Windows 10 on her laptop.

I’ve known Becky her entire life (she’s 12 years younger than me) but I’m constantly surprised, delighted, inspired  by all the things I don’t know about her! Love you, Becky!

What about you – pen or keyboard?

snowy owlDo you prefer to write by hand with pen on paper or on a keyboard? Does it affect your creativity? We had this discussion at our last Use Your Words writers group meeting. We were talking about writing every day – some like to write in a journaI while others prefer the keyboard.

I write both ways (sounds kinda sexy!). For work, I hand write copious notes and lists in my work notebook and then write copy for newsletters, brochures, social media, etc., on the computer keyboard. I like writing for work on the keyboard because I type lightening fast and can edit/correct/change as I write.

But, because I have a tendency to edit/correct/change while writing on the keyboard, I prefer to write my personal stuff by hand. I write by hand in my Travel Journal.  And, every morning, my sister Becky and I write for 10 minutes in our journals and then read out loud what we wrote. Unedited handwriting is raw, not so pretty, truthful.

I found an interesting article on the I-net about the benefits of writing by hand http://mentalfloss.com/article/33508/4-benefits-writing-hand. In the short time I spent searching, I saw lots of information about the benefits of writing by hand but none on the benefits of typing. We’ll just have to make up our own.

Last year, our writers group read “Writing Down Your Soul,” by Janet Conner. One entire chapter is about choosing your writing tools. I had never thought about the physical connections between our hearts, minds and hands when writing.

What about you – pen or keyboard?