Men with lists at Walmart

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It’s Wednesday. The day before Thanksgiving and I’m at Walmart picking up a prescription. Yes, I’m sick. Feel like crap. I figure I might as well get milk while I’m here even though the pharmacy is at the front of the store and the milk is far, far away at the very back of this huge place.  As I trudge from one end of the store to the other, I notice men with lists. Some alone, but mostly men in pairs.

I spot a dad and teenage boy in the baking aisle. Dad holds the list while the teen searches the selection of instant puddings. “Here’s butterscotch. How many?” he asks. Dad reviews the list, “Says four big boxes.”

A pair of millennial hipsters work both sides of the spice and condiments aisle. “I got the sage,” said one, “Here’s hot sauce,” announced the other. They huddle over the list for a moment before setting off in search of the next item.

Parked in front of the aluminum roasting pans were two stately older black gentlemen.  “Do we need ones with lids?” one wondered out loud. “We’d better find out. I’m calling,” said the other with cell phone in hand.

I felt happy thinking these men happily volunteered to go shopping to help those who are cooking Thanksgiving dinner. It also occurred to me that some might have been handed the list and ordered to get going.  Or maybe some of the men were working their own list and shopping for the meals they are cooking today. It’s all good.

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

I feel blessed to live in a diverse community. Thank you for not being offended by my use of ethnic descriptions. 

Pain vs. Brain

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Four months ago today, I had surgery to replace my right knee. Everything went great and I’m very happy with the results.

For the first eight weeks after surgery, I regularly took pain pills – oxycodone. I wasn’t concerned with becoming addicted. I believe that pain causes stress which slows down the healing process. But, with all the negative press about opioids – which oxycodone is – I’ve heard many people say they won’t take pain medication. For sure, if you know you have an addictive personality, it’s a wise decision to avoid opioids.

My plan to get caught-up with writing, movies, and reading during my recovery time didn’t happen. The pain medication subdued my brain in so many ways. I didn’t care about food – nothing appealed to me. I lost interest in sex, reading, movies, writing, talking. The oxycodone made me feel calm and kind of numb which was OK during the time I was recovering from major surgery.

My knee still hurts from time to time – it’s part of the healing process going on in there. But, it doesn’t hurt enough to warrant taking pain meds. And, I’m so happy to have my active, crazy, engaged brain back!